Is it okay to marry a man to control you ?

First of all I have a lot of insecurities about myself . My parents feel that I need to marry someone that will keep me grounded. I am not a party animal but I just do not like being in this house . There is always so many negative things that are said to me . My mom asked me , " What do you think you are a princess that no man can control you ?" I said how can I think I am a princess when I think I am fat ugly and stupid. Then she said she was hurt that I had said that to her ... ahahahahahah lol ...I am going nuts here ..I do not know what to even think anymore . Are they playing mind games with me . Please someone help me . She said I do not know why you and your sister are like that . I said like what, she said you both girls do not want a man to control you . HMMMM...because this is America ..land of the free . Thank you lord Jesus that at least we can pray to you. I pray that they as well get saved one day . I wish I would have attended church this morning . Is it normal to be submissive when you do not want to be ? I do not want to live with a family and serve them because I just like the way mine treats me . However my brothers girlfriend feels that it is okay with her to do so . I think she just has a better heart than me .